Truthfulness and honesty are elements that I hold close to my heart. I strive to live an honest existence and to truly speak the things that I mean and also mean the things that I say. I consciously place forth effort in responding to others with truth, as I believe that in every situation there is a way to be honest. Being honest is certainly not the easiest road to take but it provides me with freedom of heart and spirit.
I can remember for so long being afraid to be honest with others. I would worry about how I might make another person feel, be concerned with their opinions of me, and think a lie wouldn’t really matter. As I connected with the discontent this caused me to feel within myself, I decided to make a change. I made a commitment to truthfulness.
As you might be able to imagine this road was not an easy one. Learning to fine tune honesty can be a delicate process. There were times I was overly honest and hurtful to others, times I would hold back out of fear of hurting others, and initially an overall struggle with anxiety around the entire transition itself. I also realized that as I became more aware of my quest toward truthfulness I became overly sensitive to the dishonesty of others around me. Suddenly I expected everyone to live according to this standard I had set for myself and when they did not, I felt personally wounded.
Through practice, I learned and my dedication to honesty became a much more natural process. I learned truth need only be spoken when necessary and that with careful consideration there are ways to deliver it with kindness. I learned that sincere honesty is not only speaking my truth, it is following through and living my words after. I learned that another person’s dishonesty is not a personal attack, rather simply their way of navigating a situation at hand. Most importantly I learned that living in my truth inspires those around me to live in theirs.
Finding our way to living honestly can be a struggle, yet once we arrive it is absolutely freeing. I ask you to spend this month dedicated to living an honest life. Spend time considering your words before speaking them, speak the words that are needed to be spoken, and follow through with the words you state to yourself and others. Also, find the willingness to be honest about the fears and difficulties, as well as the joy and sense of accomplishment that arise during this process. I am looking forward to hearing all about your experience in your quest toward truthfulness.